I have started to show/swell MUCH sooner than I ever expected too. I'm struggling with this on a personal level. I love that God created a woman's body to accommodate her child. I love that I get this special bonding time with my little one that no one else will ever have. I'm still struggling. I feel gross. I feel dumpy. I feel sloppy. I'm much larger than I have ever been, and I'm a little self-conscious about it. I feel like I'm in that stage that people can't figure out if I am pregnant or if I just need to lay off the cheeseburgers for a while. Without the comments, I'm struggling. I have always been content with my appearance, and satisfied with how I look. I never understood it when people couldn't see their true beauty. Until I became pregnant and everything changed SO fast. I get it now.
I've compiled a list of my recent personal experiences, and begging you not to repeat them to any woman. They just aren't nice. (Oh P.S. I know you bloggy friends wouldn't dare say these things.)
"Wow, your breasts are really huge now! Just wait until they get even bigger! They aren't even supposed to have grown that much yet!"
"You're only 8 weeks? Are you sure you aren't having twins? You're really pooching out."
"Aw you are getting a baby PUDGE!" I'm sorry, I don't care what adjective you put in front of it, pudge is never acceptable.
"Whoa! You've really put in the weight already!"
"I always expected you to just get the basketball belly, but your weight is really spreading everywhere."
"I just saw you last week! This week is REALLY out there!"
"I bet that swelling really does hurt. You look awful."
"You aren't supposed to swell yet. Just imagine what you will be like right before the baby comes."
"Are your pants killing you yet?"
"It's ok to be fat, you're pregnant."
Please. For all sanity of women, don't say these things to someone. Being pregnant does not put a sign on my back that says "Attempt to kill my self-esteem here."