Wednesday, November 17, 2010

I'm nearly 10 weeks pregnant...

...and you should know by now things not to say to a pregnant woman. Since there are so many in this world that somehow fell under the radar in that class, allow me to remind you.

I have started to show/swell MUCH sooner than I ever expected too. I'm struggling with this on a personal level. I love that God created a woman's body to accommodate her child. I love that I get this special bonding time with my little one that no one else will ever have. I'm still struggling. I feel gross. I feel dumpy. I feel sloppy. I'm much larger than I have ever been, and I'm a little self-conscious about it. I feel like I'm in that stage that people can't figure out if I am pregnant or if I just need to lay off the cheeseburgers for a while. Without the comments, I'm struggling. I have always been content with my appearance, and satisfied with how I look. I never understood it when people couldn't see their true beauty. Until I became pregnant and everything changed SO fast. I get it now.

I've compiled a list of my recent personal experiences, and begging you not to repeat them to any woman. They just aren't nice. (Oh P.S. I know you bloggy friends wouldn't dare say these things.)

"Wow, your breasts are really huge now! Just wait until they get even bigger! They aren't even supposed to have grown that much yet!"

"You're only 8 weeks? Are you sure you aren't having twins? You're really pooching out."

"Aw you are getting a baby PUDGE!" I'm sorry, I don't care what adjective you put in front of it, pudge is never acceptable.

"Whoa! You've really put in the weight already!"

"I always expected you to just get the basketball belly, but your weight is really spreading everywhere."

"I just saw you last week! This week is REALLY out there!"

"I bet that swelling really does hurt. You look awful."

"You aren't supposed to swell yet. Just imagine what you will be like right before the baby comes."

"Are your pants killing you yet?"

"It's ok to be fat, you're pregnant."

Please. For all sanity of women, don't say these things to someone. Being pregnant does not put a sign on my back that says "Attempt to kill my self-esteem here."


Jamie said...

Goodness gracious! Why would people say these things?! I think you look great!

Shannon said...

people can be sooo mean! I got the most annoying remarks about my "huge" belly. People even said they "didn't think I would make it to my due date" because I was so big. UGH. And I totally went past my due date by 5 days, so :p to them! hehe. I think you look great. People will just say anything!!! so sorry :(

Amy Lynn said...

Wow.... Seriously? Who said "I always expected you to just get the basketball belly, but your weight is really spreading everywhere." I'm gonna kick their ask asap when I get there. wtf. I hope I've never said anything to offend you. I think you look beautiful, and I really do think you PREGNANT, and not pudgey, fat, chunky, etc. You have a baby belly, the end. A well deserved one. You are a beautiful person, inside and out... no matter how big your baby belly gets! Love you!

Sarah said...

Ouch, ouch, and more ouch!! So sorry people keep sticking their foot in their mouth!!! Just tell them "I'm rubber, you're glue..."

Hey it worked in 2nd grade :-)

Miss you dear!!! I think the belly bump is PRECIOUS!!! If it makes you feel any better I have pudge and it's not due to pregnancy :-( it's because I haven't been laying off the burgers :-)

Brittney said...

OMG!!!! why do people think it's ever okay to say those things?! :o i'm sorry you've had to deal with that! :( i think you look gorgeous! heck, your body is growing a baby! not much is more beautiful than God knitting together your precious little babe in your womb!

Jen Creed said...

Oh my freaking gosh! What the heck is wrong with people?!

You are gorgeous! And the next idiot who makes a fat comment...just say "Well I'm pregnant, what's your excuse?" ;-) Hehe.

Annie said...

i honestly can NOT believe you have heard that many rude comments!! they are all totally unacceptable and totally rude!! i am so sorry hun :( i think you look adorable and your tummy is so cute!! please don't let those people get to you, i know easier said than done but you really do look great! promise.

i hope you are having a great weekend hun!!